Henna Khan
Nafs e Mutmainnah to Nafs e Mutazakkiyah

“If someone says something mean to you, just shrug it off and dismiss it in a friendly, laidback manner, and pray that Allah shall forgive them. When you get angry, remember Allah, and how short and worthless Life is to waste in being Angry. Remember that you can never have too many friends, but you can have few quality friends that help you fulfill the purpose of your creation (i.e live for Allah.)

When you’re happy, try to share your happiness with others; thank Allah for that, and pray its continuation. When something bad or embarrassing happens to you, just think that it could always be worse, remember the reward of patience, and thank Allah that it’s not worse than it is.

Never stop believing that you can win Allah’s love and thus work for it. Then you can win the love of Allah’s servants. Always love those who love Allah unconditionally. This way you will ensure that you live for Him, love for Him, and hate for Him (those who are enemies of Him). Find the righteous ways to express yourself, and if you think that what you are about to say shall cause no benefit, maintain silence (this is tough!!)

Every now and then, give yourself a break. Play sports, give time to your family, friends, but always remember Allah and watch that He is watching you. Pray for blessing to come to your enemies, and pray to Allah to Guide them to the right path. Smile to everyone, for your smile makes a big difference to him or her and you are rewarded. Forgive, forget and smile.

Tears are not for women only… tears are for all human beings with feelings remaining in them. Don’t restrain your tears when remembering Allah. When people criticize your actions and effort, revise your actions and see if they please Allah or no. If they do, then ignore and remember how the prophet and the Sahaba were criticized, made fun of and even physically harmed, so have patience.

Don’t let popularity go to your head, for it never lasts and you may lose from it more than gain.. ”